Cowgirl remains a timeless favorite in the bedroom — and for good reason. It hands over the reins to the partner on top, granting them full control over rhythm, depth, and angle. According to a study published in Sexual Medicine, face-to-face positions with the receiving partner on top are among the top three most frequently used. But if you think the fun stops at classic cowgirl — think again.
“Cowgirl gives the person on top the ability to lead the experience,” says Anna Richards, sex educator and founder of ethical erotic platform FrolicMe. “It’s a powerfully sensual position that allows full ownership of pleasure.” Whether you’re here for the intimacy, the control, or the visual appeal, these 17 positions open up a world of possibilities.
The Ultimate List of Cowgirl-Inspired Positions
Each of these variations offers a unique twist on the cowgirl blueprint. Whether you’re seeking deeper penetration, playful intimacy, or a break from thigh burn — there’s something for everyone.
1. Classic Cowgirl
- How: The giver lies flat while the receiver straddles them, knees and shins on the bed.
- Why: Total control and customizable pressure. Ideal for personalized stimulation — especially for smaller anatomy.
2. Squatting Cowgirl
- How: The receiver squats with feet planted instead of kneeling.
- Why: Adds a bouncier rhythm and frees up hands for toys or extra stimulation.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
- How: Same setup as classic cowgirl, but facing away from the partner.
- Why: A visual feast for the giver — and a new angle of stimulation for the receiver.
4. Leaned-Back Reverse Cowgirl
- How: Start in reverse cowgirl, then lean back until your spine meets your partner’s chest.
- Why: Enables breast play and clitoral access while stimulating multiple erogenous zones.
5. Dead Man’s Cowgirl
- How: From classic cowgirl, extend both legs straight behind the giver’s outstretched legs.
- Why: Shallow but intense stimulation with enhanced clitoral contact.
6. The Crab
- How: Like squatting cowgirl, but leaning back with arms supporting weight.
- Why: Great for deep penetration — just pace yourself due to the strain on wrists and arms.
7. The Lotus
- How: Partners sit face-to-face with legs crossed and wrapped around each other.
- Why: Less thrust, more emotional intimacy, body contact, and eye connection.
8. Sideways Straddle
- How: The receiver straddles a bent knee and faces sideways while grinding.
- Why: Great for grinding and clitoral stimulation using leg pressure.
9. The Face Sit
- How: The receiver straddles their partner’s face, offering oral in cowgirl orientation.
- Why: Empowering for the receiver and comfortable for the giver.
10. Face Off
- How: Sitting face-to-face with one partner straddling the other on a chair or bed edge.
- Why: Promotes closeness, ideal for kissing and gazing into each other’s eyes.
11. The Octopus
- How: The giver sits, legs extended, while the receiver lifts their legs over the shoulders and moves into position lying back.
- Why: Deep penetration and excellent for G-spot stimulation.
12. The Lazy Man
- How: The giver sits against a headboard; the receiver straddles and takes charge.
- Why: Encourages eye contact and intimacy while allowing the receiver control.
13. Snow Angel
- How: Begin in reverse cowgirl, lean forward on elbows, legs extended backward.
- Why: Great visual appeal and opportunity for spanking or additional stimulation.
14. The Hot Seat
- How: The receiver sits on the giver’s lap — facing away — while they’re seated on a chair.
- Why: Perfect for adding vibrators or other toys. Hands are free for extra play.
15. The Lazy Woman
- How: Classic cowgirl, but the receiver leans forward onto the giver’s chest and lets them thrust from below.
- Why: Low effort, maximum closeness. Great for slow, sensual moments.
16. Side Saddle
- How: The receiver faces sideways with legs bent, creating a unique angle and rhythm.
- Why: Offers thigh squeezing for added pressure and stimulation.
17. The Full Nelson
- How: The receiver lies on top of the giver, legs bent and pulled in. The giver wraps their arms around and thrusts.
- Why: Allows the giver to take a passive role. Shallow but satisfying, with room for clitoral stimulation.
Final Thoughts
Whether you’re chasing clitoral contact, aiming for G-spot precision, or just trying to mix things up — there’s a cowgirl variation out there for you. The person on top holds the power, but both partners can benefit when exploration, communication, and playfulness take the lead.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with cushions, toys, or angle adjustments. Sex should feel good — not like a thigh workout (unless that’s your thing). And as always, check in with your partner to make sure everyone’s having a good time. After all, riding into pleasure should be a team effort.
