ANILINGUS GOES BY many names. Rimming, salad tossing, eating ass, peach munching, eating the booty like groceries, the list goes on. One potential reason why so many of the terms for it are deeply unserious is because the act itself is still widely considered taboo, and carries a stigma linked to homophobia: much like anal sex, which is still deemed “dirty” by some, in both the literal and figurative sense. But it’s probably more common than you think, and not just among gay men.

In 2015, Salon investigated the rise of anilingus and found that, when it comes to oral sex, “Ass is the new pussy.” A year later, a study published in The Journal of Sex Research looked at data from 40,000 married and cohabitating couples. While only 14 percent of those couples reported having anal sex in the last year, 30 percent said they’d enjoyed “anal stimulation,” which might involve fingers, a sex toy, or—in the case of anilingus—licks from a partner’s tongue. A 2019 article in The Tab declared that “If you’re a straight man and you don’t eat ass, you’re weak.”

What does it mean to eat ass, and why are people into it?

“Ass-eating” is something of a misnomer, since you’re not actually eating anything, but rather, using your tongue to stimulate the anus. The sex act should actually be called “ass-licking,” but that just doesn’t have the same ring to it.

Like other erogenous zones, the anus has a high concentration of nerve endings. Stimulating this area with your tongue can really rev your partner’s engine, and the “taboo” aspect can be a turn-on for the giver and the receiver.

Are you curious how to eat ass? Here’s everything to know about how to eat ass like a pro.

How to Prepare for a Rim Job

Needless to say, you want to make sure that the receiver has a clean butthole before their partner chows down. The good news is that you don’t have to do a full douche or enema before eating ass. That’s because rimming only involves the external part of the anus. If you happen to have a long and slippery tongue, you may be able to get a half-inch in there, but nothing more. You only need to douche if you or your partner are planning on taking a lengthier penis or dildo that gets deeper inside (and even then, douching is never required—but if it makes you feel more comfortable, go for it).

Really, all you need to do is wash the external anal area with some gentle soap and water. “If you’re just getting right down to things, you can do a visual and sniff test and communicate,” says Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator. “Ask your person if they want to get their butthole ready for your mouth or if they need to ‘freshen up.’” If you or your partner own a bidet, that will make prep even easier.

Even when the receiver is 100% clean and smell wonderful, they might not be able to get over the fear that they still smell or taste a little icky. “After you’ve showered, you can use edible, flavored lube on your anus,” says Dr. Lee Phillips, a psychotherapist and certified sex and couple’s therapist. This can help make the receiver feel more confident and comfortable. It also tastes yummy for the giver.

“As soon as I relax into it, it’s like getting a full body massage.“

Cleanliness isn’t just important for enjoymen;, it’s also necessary to help prevent the transfer of harmful bacteria. “Rimming can run the risk of transferring harmful gut bacteria, like E. coli or salmonella, from the person being rimmed (receiver) to the person doing the rimming (giver),” Matatas says. That’s why you should skip rimming if the receiver has an upset stomach. Having diarrhea or stomach pain could be a sign that they had food contaminated with harmful bacteria.

It’s important to warm up, too. “A lot of people have this perception that they don’t need to do any foreplay with rimming, but just like with every other type of sexual experience, you want to warm up,” Alicia Sinclair, founder and CEO of b-Vibe, says in Men’s Health Best. Sex. Ever.

“Start by teasing the anus,” she says. “Make circles with your tongue, lick it like ice cream, and play with the entire booty. Really get your hands on it. Spank it. Shake it!” Once the receiver is warmed up and ready for more, you can go deeper into the rim job.

What does getting rimmed feel like?

If you’re curious about giving or receiving anilingus, you probably want to know what it feels like before you dive in. We have some ass-eating insight from adult performers Devorah Reine and Ember Fiéra, who offered tips and techniques for eating ass correctly.

“[Rimming has] been a part of nearly every one of my partner scenes,” Reine says. “I feel energy moving up and down my spine and back body from ass eating, as opposed to energy moving up and down my front body from getting head.”

Fiéra is also a fan. “Honestly, if someone is willing to rim me for hours, I will let them,” she says. “It can kind of tickle at first, but as soon as I relax into it, it’s like getting a full body massage.”

What are the best sex positions for eating ass?

You need to find ass-eating positions that are comfortable for both you and your partner. “You want the receiver to be able to relax into the sensations while you’re comfortable giving continuous stimulation for an extended period,” Matatas explains.

Doggy style

The classic go-to position for rimming is doggy style. This is particularly popular among queer men, because after rimming, you’re in the perfect position to have anal sex. Sometimes, angling can be slightly difficult for the giver in that position, at which point the receiver can lie flat on their stomach. That might make it easier for you to spread those cheeks and start licking.

Spread eagle

Another common position is when the receiver is on their back with their legs spread, or—if they’re an expert contortionist—behind their head. “Use a pillow to prop up their pelvis, so you don’t tire out your neck from that strenuous angle,” says Matatas. You really want to tilt their butthole up, so you can feast like a king.

Face sitting

“Face sitting is also fun to explore, but [it] can be challenging for both the giver and the receiver,” Matatas says. “Prop up your head with a pillow to bring your face closer to their anus. The person being rimmed can use a bed or a wall to help balance their weight off their knees and thighs.”

Reverse face sitting

You can also do a reverse face-sit, where the receiver is sitting on your face but they’re facing away from you. They can balance against a headboard or wall, or they can lean forward and rest their elbows on either side of your body.

Anilingus 69

From the reverse face-sitting position, you can easily transition into anilingus 69 (so they’re performing oral on you while you’re eating their booty). All the person on top has to do is lean all the way forward so they can perform oral sex on the partner who’s lying down. It’s a win-win!

What are the best techniques for eating ass?

There’s more to rimming than licking. Well, you could just lick—and honestly, you both might enjoy it—but you do have other options if you want to get creative. (You should also ask your partner what they’re into—which goes for any type of sex you’re having.)

Tongue the folds.

“The crinkles of the anus have lots of nerve endings and fill up with blood as the body of the receiver gets more aroused and relaxed,” Matatas says. “Use your tongue to create circles around them.”

Use more than your tongue.

“Try using other parts of your face like your nose or chin,” she says. This is great in case your mouth and tongue start getting tired.

Use a rimming-specific sex toy

“If you want to enhance your experience with rimming, have your partner use a tongue dinger on their tongue. It vibrates their tongue, and it feels incredible,” Phillips says.

Give pleasure to surrounding anal areas.

“Lick the butt crack and use a sex toy or your other hand to stimulate the perineum, lower back, and genitals,” Matatas says.

Try a position where the receiver has control.

Try a position like face-sitting, which gives more power to the receiver; they can move their butt to control where their anus lands on your tongue and chin.

Experiment with speed, direction, and pressure.

“Allow for consistency and rhythm of one technique before moving to the next,” Matatas says. “Ask the receiver if they want it faster or slower and harder or softer. Use that feedback and adjust to their pleasure.”

Go ahead—let out a moan.

If you’re enjoying eating your partner’s ass, there’s no reason to hide that. “Deep moaning while rimming will create vibration, which can feel really good,” Fiéra says.

Flatten the top of your tongue against their anus.

This creates a larger surface area for your tongue, so your partner gets more wetness and pressure from every lick.

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WHEN IT COMES to sexual positions, survey after survey has revealed that there’s one that remains particularly popular: Doggy style. A 2021 poll by Zavamed showed that 30% of Americans prefer this position over others—and that’s true for both men and women alike.

Should that come as any surprise? From a physical standpoint, Doggy Style allows the giver to thrust deeper and harder, and the receiver to get more G-spot stimulation due to the angle of penetration. In other words, it feels really freaking great for both partners. Not to mention, this position has a certain primal appeal, the giver gets a spectacular view, and even has easy access to their partner’s clitoris. Now that’s what we call a win-win.

All that said, if dependable Doggy Style has been a go-to for a while, you (and your partner) may be eager to switch it up now and then. That’s where the prone bone comes in. This position has many of the same perks as your beloved doggy, is relatively simple to perform, and can work for both vaginal and anal sex. All that, and you get to lie down. Assuming you’re sold, here’s what you need to know.

How to get into the prone bone position

The bottom (the person being penetrated) lies flat on their stomach. The top should saddle up behind their partner with their knees bent and enter from behind. It looks like this:

Prone Bone Sex Position

Note that entering someone in the prone bone position might be a little tougher than entering in doggy style. When the body is lying flat, our holes aren’t as accessible as they are in more elevated positions. “Of course, there’s a simple solution for this: raise your hips during insertion,” says Bobby Box, a sex educator at b-Vibe. If that doesn’t work, you can start in traditional doggy style: once the top’s penis or strap-on is entirely inside the bottom, the top can lay their weight on their partner, pushing them flat down while still inside of them. Voilà: you’re now in the prone bone position!

What are the benefits of the prone bone sex position?

For such a simple pose (or perhaps because it’s a simple pose), there are quite a few benefits to the prone bone sex position.

It’s ideal for G-spot stimulation.

If you’re having vaginal sex, the angle of the receiver’s body will help their partner hit that feel-good spot on the front wall of their vagina, explains Dr. Lee Phillips, a psychotherapist and certified sex and couple’s therapist. “Vulva owners have reported the position is excellent for internal orgasms because the penis can penetrate greater depth in the vagina,” Phillips says.

It offers deep penetration for people with a small penis.

If you’re working with a smaller-than-average penis, you want to make the most of what you’ve got—which is why positions that allow for deep penetration are your friend. If your partner’s booty is on the bigger side, you may have to hold your partner’s butt cheeks apart to penetrate deeply.

You don’t have to go very deep to stimulate the G-spot (or P-spot, if you’re having anal sex), so a small penis may actually work to your advantage in this position, says Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and resident intimacy expert at dating app, 3Fun. Conversely, if you have a big penis, you gotta be careful wielding that bad boy in this position. If it feels too deep, the bottom can adjust their body to limit the top’s depth.

“To create more space, spread your legs wider or arch your back and lift your bum,” Box says. “For a tighter squeeze, bring the legs together.”

It makes using a strap-on easier.

If you’re using a strap-on dildo, the prone bone positions makes it easy to tell when the dildo slips out—because you can see it. (That’s one challenge with strap-ons, as great as they are: since the top isn’t physically connected to the penis, they can’t feel when it slips out, and they might end up missing their target—or worse, hurting the bottom.)

It allows for psychological Dom/sub play.

Box, Phillips, and Engle all noted that the prone bone position lends itself to consensual dominance/submission exploration. The top can control the depth, speed, and strength of penetration. They can hold the bottom’s hands behind their back, pin them to the bed, pull their hair, or safely try breath play. Another kinky move to try in this position is the “fish hook,” where the top sticks their fingers in the bottom’s mouth.

It allows for intimacy

The prone bone position can be quite intimate, even though you’re not facing each other. The top can kiss up and down the bottom’s neck. Depending on everyone’s size, the top may also be able to turn their partner’s head to the side, look into their eyes, and kiss them. They can also whisper sweet nothings directly into their ear, like “You’re so sexy, baby,” or “I love you so much,” or “You feel fucking incredible.”

You can incorporate sex toys.

If you’re having vaginal sex, the bottom can live out their double penetration fantasies by also using an anal toy, like a butt plug. If the top is into toys, they can try wearing a cock ring in this position for additional penis stimulation.

What are the cons of the prone bone position?

You might encounter a few challenges with the prone bone position, but they’re all fixable with a little adaptation.

The top may slip out.

Depending on the receiver’s booty size and the curve/shape of the top’s penis, the top may struggle to stay inside their partner. If you keep slipping out, try reworking the angles of your bodies. The bottom can tilt their hips to angle their vagina or anus upward toward their partner. For extra help with angles, Phillips recommends using a sex pillow or wedge.

It’s not great for clitoral stimulation

Since the bottom is lying flat on the bed, it might be tough for them to stimulate their clitoris—at least, with their hand. But there is a quick fix for this: using a magic wand. “Its bulky head is pinned between your vulva and the mattress, which can give you intense clitoral stimulation while you’re being penetrated,” Engle says.

The weight may feel crushing.

Many people like feeling of their partner’s weight on their back. Others don’t. If the sensation isn’t for you, the top can try penetrating from a more perpendicular position—or, go back to good ol’ fashioned doggy style!

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1. Cock Ring

A cock ring is worn at the base of the penis—and sometimes also around the testicles—to restrict blood flow and enhance erection strength and duration. Some cock rings vibrate, providing clitoral stimulation during penetration, making them a toy for both partners. They’re especially useful for those experiencing mild erectile issues or simply looking to intensify pleasure.

2. Clitoral Vibrator

Designed for external use, clitoral vibrators stimulate the clitoris with rhythmic vibrations. This category includes everything from compact bullet vibes to wand massagers. Since most people with vulvas need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, these are a go-to toy for many.

3. G-Spot Vibrator

Curved for internal stimulation, G-spot vibrators are designed to hit the front wall of the vagina, often producing a deeper, more wave-like orgasm. Many users find the experience different from a clitoral orgasm, with more intense build-up and release.

4. Clitoris Sucker

These toys use suction or pulsating airwaves to mimic the sensation of oral stimulation on the clitoris. Brands like Womanizer and Satisfyer are known for their effectiveness in delivering fast, intense orgasms with minimal effort.

5. Dildo

Dildos are non-vibrating toys made for penetration. They come in a range of shapes, sizes, and materials—from realistic silicone models to colorful glass designs. Some people enjoy the simplicity of manual control and the variety of textures dildos offer.

6. Prostate Massager

Prostate massagers are designed for anal insertion and stimulate the prostate gland—often called the male G-spot. These toys can lead to powerful full-body orgasms and are great for people with penises seeking new dimensions of pleasure.

7. Butt Plug

Butt plugs are meant to be inserted and left in place, creating a feeling of fullness. They come in many sizes and shapes, with some featuring vibrations or textures. Butt plugs can enhance solo play or be worn during intercourse for added stimulation.

8. Masturbation Sleeve

These toys, sometimes known as strokers or Fleshlights, encase the penis and provide textured stimulation. Modern versions offer vibration, heating, suction, and even app-controlled features that mimic oral or anal sex.

9. Anal Beads

Connected beads are gradually inserted into the anus and pulled out, usually during orgasm, for a unique “popping” sensation. They’re popular in both solo and partnered play and offer an easy introduction to anal stimulation.

10. Teledildonics

Teledildonics refers to internet-connected toys that can be controlled remotely via apps. Ideal for long-distance couples, these gadgets allow one partner to control the other’s toy in real time, making physical distance feel less distant.

11. Floggers, Paddles, and Crops

Used in impact play, these tools vary in intensity. Floggers offer broad, stinging or thudding sensations depending on material. Paddles give a firm, blunt strike, while crops deliver sharp, targeted impact. Each adds unique dynamics to BDSM scenes.

12. Chastity Cage

Chastity cages are devices worn over the genitals to prevent erections and control release. Often used in power exchange dynamics, only the dominant partner holds the key, incorporating elements of orgasm denial and submission.

13. Sex Swing

Sex swings support the body and open up a range of gravity-defying positions. Options include door swings for small spaces, traditional two-strap swings, and full slings that suspend your entire body for comfort and support during play.

With this guide, you’re one step closer to discovering which toys might bring you the most joy. Remember, there’s no “right” way to explore—it’s all about consent, comfort, and curiosity. Whether you’re just starting or looking to spice up your routine, these tools can help you discover pleasure in ways you never imagined.

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ORAL SEX IS freaking wonderful—some even claim it’s better than penetrative sex. But even though blowjobs are amazing, they can still use a bit of extra excitement every now and then.

Variety isn’t just the spice of life—sometimes it’s also the special ingredient to giving good head. There are plenty of ways to level up your oral sex game by bringing in different BJ techniques, but today we’re going to talk about sucking and licking your partner’s balls.

Sucking and licking someone’s testicles can really get some people going, says Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness. For some penis-owners, a little ball-sucking can usher in a wave of pleasure that brings them one step closer to orgasm, and a few lucky people can even climax from ball-sucking alone.“It’s rare, but it is possible for a man to orgasm from testicular stimulation,” he explains. “You can definitely try to help your partner reach orgasm through ball sucking alone, but it may take longer than usual or not happen at all.”

The act of ball sucking can take various forms, including teabagging (more on this later) and incorporating sex toys. But like all sex acts, there’s not really a standard way to suck your partner’s balls. It’s an experiment both you and your partner will need to engage in: Do they like a lot of saliva? Lube? Biting? Which toys do and don’t work for them? Most of these answers will come from your own testicle-sucking trial, though we do have some kickass recommendations from experts below.

What should I know before I suck someone’s balls?

Okay: The number one rule is not to assume every partner wants their balls in your mouth. As Saynt explains, balls are extremely sensitive, thus not every ball owner will want their babies licked and sucked. “Some men have vey sensitive testicles and would prefer [it] if they were avoided at all costs,” he says.

As with any sex act, you need to get your partner’s enthusiastic consent before you take their balls in your mouth. The convo can look like this:

You: “Can I suck your balls?”

Them: “Hell yes you can.”

If you have the conversation well before you get to the bedroom, you’ll have time to lay out some ground rules. Hair or no hair? Do you want them to shower directly beforehand, or are you okay with a little funkiness?

“Request any of the things that would make the experience more enjoyable for you and he’ll most likely comply,” says Saynt. “Cleanliness is definitely important and you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable asking your partner to make sure his area is ready before you go bobbing for apples.”

What do I do when I’m sucking?

Ask your partner for any suggestions on what they like. If it’s not their first rodeo with ball sucking, they might have some tips and tricks for you. Some may prefer ball-sucking as a form of foreplay to get them primed for the BJ; some may prefer it as a mid-BJ interlude; others may enjoy both!

You’re holding their crown jewels, so please, please, be careful. Maybe you start by gently sucking and licking the scrotum, and if they’re into that, then you can proceed to taking one ball—or both balls—in your mouth. Once your mouth is full, try sucking like it’s a lollipop, or running your tongue over their scrotum for a sucking/licking double feature.

What is teabagging?

Aside from licking and sucking, there is also teabagging. According to Saynt, teabagging is when “a man dips his balls in and out of the mouth of his partner.” (Get it? It’s like dunking a teabag in and out of hot water.)

Teabagging can be pleasurable not just for the testicle-owner, but for the receiver, too; if you’re into playing with power, having someone lower their balls into your mouth might tap into your submissive side. Teabagging, along with other forms of ball-sucking, can also be a way to explore the kink known as cock worship.

Sounds pretty pleasurable, right? Well, it can be, depending on the partner. Remember, not everyone is into the same thing, so you can’t assume everyone wants you to teabag their balls. Prioritize communication over pleasure.

What sex toys can you use for ball sucking?

There are plenty of ways to combine ball-sucking with sex toys. Saynt recommends having your partner use a masturbation sleeve—a sex toy that mimics the feeling of a vagina, anus, or mouth—while you go to town on their testicles.

“Tenga Eggs are [also] great to use during sex, and can add an extra layer of stimulation for your partner,” Saynt says, adding, “There are plenty of flavored lubes on the market that you can use to give your experience a little flavor.”

And, as always, if you’re concerned about STI prevention, you can consider using a dental dam.

Should you incorporate ball sucking into your sex life?

“If there’s something in the world of sex that excites you or piques your curiosity, it’s very okay to introduce it into your sex life,” Saynt says.

If ball-sucking isn’t your or your partner’s thing, no prob. You could also introduce “the seam,” which is the area between the anus and the balls (also commonly known as the perineum or taint). Because sex isn’t about checking items off a bucket list—it’s about tapping into whatever you and your partner are most into.

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Hurts and Burrows first met at the University of Alabama back in 2016. While their romance blossomed quietly over the years, the couple made their relationship public in 2023, spotted together celebrating the NFC Championship victory. The engagement followed in September, with a romantic proposal at a picturesque oceanfront location.

Details of their wedding have been kept private, but it’s clear the connection between Hurts and Burrows is deep and enduring. Speaking about his relationship, Hurts shared in a previous interview, “I knew a long time ago. To this point in my life, that’s an irreplaceable feeling. I think that’s what allowed us to get to where we are now.”

On the day of his Men’s Health interview, Hurts carried a crumpled pink Post-it from Bry, a simple message reading, “You are exactly where you are supposed to be. I love you. Follow God! I follow you.” The note, signed “B” for Bryonna, shows the pair’s close bond and mutual support.

Congratulations to Jalen Hurts and Bry Burrows as they start their journey as husband and wife!

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But there’s no reason to let nerves or fear get in the way of finding a connection. The best approach is directness, honesty, and the willingness to accept whatever answer you get. Here’s how to ask someone out the right way—without making things awkward or complicated.

• Don’t overthink it. Most of us are our own worst critics. The more you obsess about how to make the perfect first move, the more likely you are to psych yourself out and miss your chance. “Don’t overthink it or make it harder than it has to be. Keep it simple. Ask if they want to have dinner or drinks,” says Dr. Kristie Overstreet, clinical sexologist and psychotherapist. Just go for it—if they say yes, great. If not, at least you haven’t wasted weeks agonizing over your approach.
• Be clear and direct. Avoid vague invitations like “Want to hang?” Instead, be specific and intentional. Try something like, “Would you like to get coffee on Saturday?” This makes your intentions clear and shows genuine interest.
• Keep it low-pressure. There’s no need for elaborate plans. You don’t have to be flashy or unique to make a good impression. Focus on making a real connection, not creating a big spectacle.
• Be yourself. It sounds like a cliché, but authenticity matters. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress the other person. “Authenticity is the best game you can bring,” says relationship expert Shamyra Howard, LCSW. People want to date the real you—not a character you’ve created.
• Pay attention to their response. If you’re asking over text and get a vague answer, look for effort on their end. If they’re busy but suggest another time, they’re likely interested. If they’re noncommittal, or don’t respond after a follow-up, take the hint and move on.
• When asking in person, start with small talk. Ease into the conversation. If they engage with you, that’s a good sign. If they seem uninterested or give short answers, respect their space and don’t push.
• Respect the answer—whatever it is. If you get turned down, accept it graciously. Don’t try to convince them or “change their mind.” Respect is attractive, and persistence in the face of a clear no is not romantic—it’s inappropriate.

Ultimately, if someone wants to go out with you, they will. If not, don’t dwell on it—just move on. Every rejection gets you closer to someone who genuinely wants to spend time with you. The most important thing is to be brave, be real, and keep it simple. That’s the right way to ask someone out.

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But what exactly is the Eiffel Tower position? Is it as wild as it sounds? And does it have a place in real-life intimacy, or is it just locker-room legend? We spoke with sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, author of She Comes First, to get a deeper understanding of this classic threesome configuration — and whether it deserves its controversial reputation.

What Exactly Is the Eiffel Tower Position?

The Eiffel Tower is a threesome position typically involving two partners penetrating a third partner — one via intercourse from behind, and the other via oral sex at the front. The “tower” effect comes when the penetrating partners high-five over the middle person, mimicking the landmark’s structure (well, vaguely). That triumphant gesture has become the defining image of the position.

Eiffel Tower vs. Spit-Roast

Technically speaking, the difference between the Eiffel Tower and the similar “spit-roast” position is all in the high five. In a spit-roast, the physical setup is the same, but there’s no celebratory hand connection. Still, Kerner suggests not getting too caught up in semantics — the goal is shared pleasure, not architectural accuracy.

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Why the Eiffel Tower Can Be Hot for Everyone

Despite its frat-boy reputation, the Eiffel Tower can be deeply satisfying for all parties when approached with mutual respect and enthusiasm.

• Visual stimulation: Both end partners get a front-row seat to the action — whether it’s eye contact, watching their partner receive pleasure, or simply enjoying the group dynamic.
• Power exchange: The person in the middle experiences a strong sense of submission, while the penetrating partners often feel dominant and connected.
• Camaraderie: There’s something undeniably bonding — and potentially playful — about sharing such an intimate act with a friend or trusted partner.
• Simultaneous stimulation: For the person in the center, giving and receiving pleasure at once can bring a unique, heightened experience.

“There’s a psychological thrill in submitting to two partners,” says Kerner. “It’s a fantasy for many — one where being desired and dominated overlaps with being in control of your pleasure.”

How to Actually Do the Eiffel Tower

Setting up the Eiffel Tower doesn’t require gymnast-level flexibility — but communication and positioning are key.

1. The middle partner gets on all fours.
2. One partner positions themselves at the back for penetration.
3. The other partner kneels in front to receive oral sex.
4. Once everyone is in rhythm, the two outer partners can high-five over the middle — the signature Eiffel Tower move.

Keep in mind: height, bed space, and comfort matter. If one partner is significantly taller, or if the middle partner struggles with being on hands and knees, props like pillows or wedges can help.

Variations to Explore

The Eiffel Tower doesn’t have to be rigid. The joy of threesomes — and sex in general — lies in experimentation.

• Try flipping the middle partner onto their back for a new angle. This may shift the dynamic but still allows for simultaneous stimulation.
• If bed height becomes an issue, the penetrating partner may need to kneel on the floor, while the oral-receiving partner adjusts their position accordingly.
• Want to switch it up mid-act? Go for it. “Position perfection shouldn’t take priority over pleasure,” says Kerner.

Consent and Communication Come First

No matter how adventurous a position might be, the most important factors are mutual respect and clear communication. “The 4Cs — consent, caring, communication, and caution — should always be front and center,” says Kerner.

That includes checking in with all partners about comfort levels, adjusting positions as needed, and making sure no one feels ignored or overwhelmed during the act. Eye contact and body awareness can go a long way.

Final Thoughts: Should You Try the Eiffel Tower?

If everyone’s onboard and enthusiastic, the Eiffel Tower can be a rewarding, high-intensity position that blends fantasy with fun. It’s not just about a high five — it’s about high pleasure. Whether you’re inspired by Sabrina Carpenter’s cheeky nod in Paris or just curious about what a three-way can look like at its most synchronized, the Eiffel Tower is worth considering.

Just remember: no landmark is worth building if the foundation isn’t solid. With the right communication, creativity, and care, the Eiffel Tower might just become your next unforgettable memory — no passport required.

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“Cowgirl gives the person on top the ability to lead the experience,” says Anna Richards, sex educator and founder of ethical erotic platform FrolicMe. “It’s a powerfully sensual position that allows full ownership of pleasure.” Whether you’re here for the intimacy, the control, or the visual appeal, these 17 positions open up a world of possibilities.

The Ultimate List of Cowgirl-Inspired Positions

Each of these variations offers a unique twist on the cowgirl blueprint. Whether you’re seeking deeper penetration, playful intimacy, or a break from thigh burn — there’s something for everyone.

1. Classic Cowgirl

• How: The giver lies flat while the receiver straddles them, knees and shins on the bed.
• Why: Total control and customizable pressure. Ideal for personalized stimulation — especially for smaller anatomy.

2. Squatting Cowgirl

• How: The receiver squats with feet planted instead of kneeling.
• Why: Adds a bouncier rhythm and frees up hands for toys or extra stimulation.

3. Reverse Cowgirl

• How: Same setup as classic cowgirl, but facing away from the partner.
• Why: A visual feast for the giver — and a new angle of stimulation for the receiver.

4. Leaned-Back Reverse Cowgirl

• How: Start in reverse cowgirl, then lean back until your spine meets your partner’s chest.
• Why: Enables breast play and clitoral access while stimulating multiple erogenous zones.

5. Dead Man’s Cowgirl

• How: From classic cowgirl, extend both legs straight behind the giver’s outstretched legs.
• Why: Shallow but intense stimulation with enhanced clitoral contact.

6. The Crab

• How: Like squatting cowgirl, but leaning back with arms supporting weight.
• Why: Great for deep penetration — just pace yourself due to the strain on wrists and arms.

7. The Lotus

• How: Partners sit face-to-face with legs crossed and wrapped around each other.
• Why: Less thrust, more emotional intimacy, body contact, and eye connection.

8. Sideways Straddle

• How: The receiver straddles a bent knee and faces sideways while grinding.
• Why: Great for grinding and clitoral stimulation using leg pressure.

9. The Face Sit

• How: The receiver straddles their partner’s face, offering oral in cowgirl orientation.
• Why: Empowering for the receiver and comfortable for the giver.

10. Face Off

• How: Sitting face-to-face with one partner straddling the other on a chair or bed edge.
• Why: Promotes closeness, ideal for kissing and gazing into each other’s eyes.

11. The Octopus

• How: The giver sits, legs extended, while the receiver lifts their legs over the shoulders and moves into position lying back.
• Why: Deep penetration and excellent for G-spot stimulation.

12. The Lazy Man

• How: The giver sits against a headboard; the receiver straddles and takes charge.
• Why: Encourages eye contact and intimacy while allowing the receiver control.

13. Snow Angel

• How: Begin in reverse cowgirl, lean forward on elbows, legs extended backward.
• Why: Great visual appeal and opportunity for spanking or additional stimulation.

14. The Hot Seat

• How: The receiver sits on the giver’s lap — facing away — while they’re seated on a chair.
• Why: Perfect for adding vibrators or other toys. Hands are free for extra play.

15. The Lazy Woman

• How: Classic cowgirl, but the receiver leans forward onto the giver’s chest and lets them thrust from below.
• Why: Low effort, maximum closeness. Great for slow, sensual moments.

16. Side Saddle

• How: The receiver faces sideways with legs bent, creating a unique angle and rhythm.
• Why: Offers thigh squeezing for added pressure and stimulation.

17. The Full Nelson

• How: The receiver lies on top of the giver, legs bent and pulled in. The giver wraps their arms around and thrusts.
• Why: Allows the giver to take a passive role. Shallow but satisfying, with room for clitoral stimulation.

Final Thoughts

Whether you’re chasing clitoral contact, aiming for G-spot precision, or just trying to mix things up — there’s a cowgirl variation out there for you. The person on top holds the power, but both partners can benefit when exploration, communication, and playfulness take the lead.

Don’t be afraid to experiment with cushions, toys, or angle adjustments. Sex should feel good — not like a thigh workout (unless that’s your thing). And as always, check in with your partner to make sure everyone’s having a good time. After all, riding into pleasure should be a team effort.

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But that sweetness can quickly turn sour if things get awkward — or worse, if your friend doesn’t feel the same. Navigating that emotional minefield takes courage, self-awareness, and a good dose of emotional maturity.

Why Asking Out a Friend Feels So High Stakes

Unlike flirting with a stranger or swiping right on an app, asking out a friend has ripple effects. You’re potentially reshaping a dynamic that may have taken years to develop — and if you’re part of the same friend group, the outcome could send shockwaves through your entire social circle.

You’re Changing the Rules of the Relationship

“When you ask a friend out, you’re fundamentally shifting the relationship into a new dynamic,” says Gigi Engle, certified sex and relationship psychotherapist. “This comes with a whole host of logistical and emotional complications.”

It’s not just about how you feel — it’s about how that change could impact your group hangouts, mutual friends, and emotional safety net.

The Right Way to Ask Them Out

If you’ve made the decision to go for it, honesty should be your foundation. It’s tempting to tiptoe around your feelings or test the waters with vague hints, but that only creates confusion. This is a moment that calls for clarity.

Be Direct — But Thoughtful

“Honesty is the best policy,” says Engle. “If they’re a good friend, they’ll appreciate your vulnerability. And if they feel the same way, they’ll be glad you said something.”

That said, timing and tone matter. Choose a private moment where you can have a calm, respectful conversation — not at a party or in the middle of a group text. And be clear that you’re sharing your feelings, not making a demand.

What About the Friend Group?

Let’s be honest — friend group dynamics are complicated. If your social life revolves around a shared group of friends, the move could shake things up temporarily.

“The group just won’t function the same way for a while,” says Engle. “That doesn’t mean forever, but expect some shifts.”

If things go well, the adjustment might be easy. If not, it could take time to recalibrate. The key? Keep communication open with everyone involved and don’t hide what’s going on — secrecy tends to breed more drama than honesty.

What If They Say No?

Rejection always stings, especially when it comes from someone close. But it’s not the end of the world — or even necessarily the end of the friendship.

Let Yourself Feel It — Then Talk It Out

“Don’t run from the discomfort,” says Engle. “Sit with it. Then, when you’re ready, talk honestly with your friend about how to move forward.”

This might include setting boundaries for a while, creating a little distance, or finding new ways to interact that help you reestablish a sense of normalcy.

• Take time for yourself — whether that means a weekend away, journaling, or diving into a new hobby.
• Spend time with other friends to reset your social balance.
• Avoid ruminating or overanalyzing — not every rejection is personal.

Eventually, things can return to how they were — or evolve into something just as meaningful. But give yourself time and space to heal before trying to jump back into the friendship full speed.

The Bottom Line: It’s a Risk, But a Worthy One

Asking out a friend is a bold move — one that could either bring you closer together or create a bit of temporary awkwardness. But if your feelings are genuine, the risk might be worth the reward.

Just remember:

• Be honest, clear, and kind.
• Respect their response, whatever it is.
• Stay grounded in your own self-worth, no matter the outcome.

After all, some of the best love stories start with friendship — and even if yours doesn’t become romantic, it might still be one of the most important relationships in your life.

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